If loneliness bothers you – take your camera and go out into the city. Today I will reveal to you some secrets of my private history related to photography and relationships.
Loneliness is very troublesome. People are made to associate with other people.
How to deal with loneliness?
The best way to deal with loneliness (if your going to start a relationship, but you are not sure about it): Don’t be a total loser or you’ll just end up like I did.
I read a lot and I have followed some of the advices that you can find, for example:
Get rid of people you don’t want to be in a relationship with. And if you really want the relationship, you should get rid of any people you don’t trust in the first place. This is the best and most socially healthy way.
These tips didn’t help much. I’ve had many break-ups and disappointments.
As always, the worst part was the void after the breakups. This paralyzing aversion to the world, fearing another disappointment, made me more and more closed to the world.
Probably many of you, my dear readers, have experienced the same as me. It is much easier when you have friends around you who will support you with a good word.
My story is a bit more complicated though, so let’s start from the beginning.
My story – from Mexico to United States
My parents are from Mexico and came to the United States in the 1990s
As is usually the case with immigrant families, the main purpose of the move was finances and the desire to get a better job.
I was born in the USA and that’s why I have American citizenship, but my beauty obviously reveals my Latin origins.
Unfortunately, some States still have some prejudices about the families of their immigrants, especially from the Mexican region. There is a subject for a separate story, but still in some regions the people of the south are treated much worse – sometimes even with contempt.
And it was the same with me in school, of course I was mocked and I experienced acts of racism a lot.
My parents worked very hard to ensure that I did not miss anything and that I could learn for which I am very grateful.
Unfortunately, hard work and rush of life led to the fact that I said goodbye to my parents in 2005.
First my dad died of a heart attack in 2020, and 3 years later my mother died.
Since then, I am alone, that is, all my family and my cousins live in Mexico.
Generally my birth in the States meant that he didn’t really belong to Mexico, nor did they fully feel American.
Perhaps this is the reason why I have problems establishing relationships
However, let’s get to the point because this article was supposed to be about how to deal with loneliness and not how it was hard for me in life.
Maybe I will write more about it one day, but today I wanted to write to you about my experiences with photography.
My jobs before being photographer
After graduating from high school, I looked for a place for a long time.
I worked as a waitress at a motel on Interstate 66, linking Texas Arizona. However, the new highway network meant that even enthusiasts of old America journeys had to shut down their businesses. Overall, the entire region fell into poverty.
So I moved to different places, working as a kitchen assistant, sometimes as a waitress or at a bar.
People consider me a pretty person, that’s why I received many offers from men. As you can easily guess, these were not very moral proposals related to, for example, a better job in exchange for known what.
I was brought up with a sense of traditional values and my parents were very religious
That is why I have always refused this type of proposal.
Once upon a time – in 2010 or 2011, I think, while walking on my trip to Los Angeles – I noticed a young girl taking pictures of various elements of bird architecture and people walking by.
She was very agile and delicate in all this, it was obvious that this was not her first field session.
I liked it because I had a very little concept of photography and mostly only used my cell phone.
However, the said girl used a DSLR. Maybe it was Canon or Nikon, I don’t remember exactly. So I thought why not try to get into photography.
I do odd jobs anyway, so maybe I’ll buy myself something better than a cell phone. This is how I purchased my first equipment and started my adventure with photography.
To be continued.
building connections with others, but also with our own inner selves.
In my experience, taking up photography has been a game-changer for me. Not just because it’s given me a new creative outlet, but because it’s helped me see the world in a different way. When you’re behind a lens, everything feels more intimate and connected – like you’re seeing the world through fresh eyes.
Of course, I’m not saying that photography is a magic solution to loneliness. But what I am saying is that by being open to new experiences and connections, we can start to build bridges with others and with ourselves. And that’s where the real healing happens.